The Constant Struggle to be SEEN!

While I don’t have access to network television or cable (by choice) I know Rami Malek, who portrayed Bi-icon Freddie Mercury in the film Bohemian Rhapsody, won an Oscar for his performance in the film. I also know that in his acceptance speech he referred to Freddie as a ‘gay man’. Freddie was not a gay man, he was a bisexual man,  and he not only knew who he was but he said who he was.

It is appalling that an actor who portrayed a Bi man would perpetuate the invisibility of the Bisexual community by mis-labeling the flesh and blood human being he inhabited on-screen. There is an outcry from many quarters of the Bi community but why must we continue to fight this battle. It is #20BiTeen and it is long past time for our vibrant and valid community to be recognized and respected.

Bisexual erasure is a pervasive problem in both the straight and LGBT community and it impugns the existence of and legitimacy of bisexuality. Whether you are questioning us or outright denying our existence irreparable harm is being done.

The bottom line here is talking about us can save our lives. This is not a minor concern. It is a major problem. It is only because of our amazing resilience we have survived at all. Enough. Just. Enough. The time is long past due to respect (and accept) our existence.  I am an old battle-axe and I WILL call you out if you mislabel me. But it takes immense energy to continue to do so. Think of the young person or the closeted person who desperately needs validation. Continued mis-labeling can result in their questioning what they know, who they are. Stop it. Just Stop IT.

Support our bravery when we tell you who we are. If you are a member of the LGBT community make sure there is Bi representation in your local organization. Trust me, we’re here and we’re queer and we belong. Celebrate us. Realize that our history of struggle is the same as yours. There are many early LGBT pioneers who identified as bisexual. Educate yourself about our community.

The B is not silent. Just listen and you will hear us roar.

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